Love is patient,love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (1st Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV).
I know most of you ladies have a man in your life. It could be a father, a brother, a male relative or that friend neatly tacked away in the friend zone corner. Most likely, they love you, they are your blood and true friend. Then comes the other man. That man that is not your blood yet your blood runs at his sight. That magnificent adrenaline that makes you have butterflies upon thinking of him. He brings out that silly streak we all manage to tack away in the name of maturity. He makes you laugh, he makes you cry because of silly things. Such is love. Such is a man we ladies, crave for. But have you ever sat and thought if he is the one for you?
Now, we all love to call each other the sweet little names that make us grin like fools. "Hello love!" Such are our conversations from time to time. Now replace the word love in the first paragraph with his name; e.g "Luca is patient.....Luca always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." Well, dear ladies, is Luca all that? No is perfect, but is your Luca what he says he is? Does your Luca treat you with the patience only acquired of God? Does your Luca encourage you to be truthful?
If I may, I would like to express my love and admiration for this particular man who set such a high standard on love for men to emulate. His love for me proved unmatched, unbeaten, trustworthy and perfect.
Any woman wants a man who proclaims his love for them, to fight to earn it. I mean fight to the last ounce of strength for you. You do not wake up one day and get a good job, you must have worked for it, sweat for it and earned it. The end result is sweet, you are careful not to loose your hard earned results, you behave. Jesus fought for you to death. So ladies, is Luca behaving as though you are priceless? Did he work to get you, or did you hand him you on a pretty ribboned silver platter? Is Luca making you feel special?
A man, in the Biblical and traditional aspect should be a leader. Great leadership skills are not easy to acquire. Such come with wisdom, a lot of learning and support from significant parties. Lady, is Luca leading you down the drain of destructive measures? Are your biceps cramping from supporting the wrong leadership afraid of loosing him? Are you sweating to stay in the relationship? If you loose him, your muscles will get a break. Your body will thank you. Let go of something that does not sit well with you, it is physically and emotionally draining. Unfortunately, if you as a lady have no sense of what is right, you will be led darling, oh you will be led to that slaughterhouse. See, you did not even realize you are in a sheepskin.
Is he demeaning your worth to 'raise' his? Is he physically, emotionally and verbally demeaning you? Remember Jesus defending the woman who was to be stoned because of infidelity? Even at her worst in the human eye, He defended her. Don't cheat on him though, haha. Is your man protecting/ defending you? Is Luca the onion you never thought you'd meet? Is he your wardrobe manager now that you're wearing humongous glasses to cover your teary bruised face? You cannot expose your arms because of the bruises. Years of tears will dehydrate you, toxins will pile up, dehydration is an actual cause of acute kidney failure. Honey, take care of your make up, immune system, your kidneys and you mental health too. You need them to survive, literally. You can survive though without a bad Luca.
Strive to know your man's people. Know his friends, study them, interact with them. Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character (1st Corinthians 15:33-NIV). There's is a 99% chance that they are his mirror.
Know his background. His upbringing plays a role too. If he is not comfortable with you meeting his family, he could be hiding you from the world or his family from you.You my friend are his dirty little secret. Forget the hope of ever settling with such unless you will be the vicar in your own very private wedding.
Let a man know your worth, you are a jewel. Stop settling for less than you deserve. If he cannot respect you enough to realize this, please move on. If he is not after God's heart like David of the Bible, the today's 'philistines' will devour you. Practice patience. Let God bring the one to you. Above all, be a lady worth a good God-given man.
There is a verse in the good book, (Proverbs 30:18-19) that mentions four things that are "too wonderful to comprehend". One of them is the way of a man and a woman, or simply put, relationships between lovers. The man or the woman shows up and suddenly, all other considerations and all forms of rationale are suddenly relegated and everything can be tossed in a heartbeat if it shows even a semblance of a threat to the relationship.
ReplyDeleteSuddenly, we have jumped into this roller coaster ride and the terrific thrills, the highs and the lows, the anxious moments, the see-sawing doubts and reassurances, and the revitalizing possibilities take over our life. Even precious things and people may be tossed out if they don't seem to have a section in this 'grand jigsaw' that we are now staring at with glee and unwavering attention.
The heart, in a condescending tone I would imagine, declares to the brain; "move over pal! There's a new sheriff in town!"
Alas! What a wonderful world!
A nice early morning read!
Wonderfully put. Haha, I concur on that. Love things are just that, complex and beyond understanding. In most cases, the heart wins over the brain. Such is life my friend. Thank you and stay tuned!
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