MIRROR MIRROR, I AM PERFECT, OR AM I....?

Yesterday I watched a grown man try my little patience whilst manifesting his own impatience. I happened to explain to him a standard procedure for something quite simple but instead of giving me time to work on it, he kept his face in my space. By the third appearance of his pretty face(yes he had one), I was still calm. I again asked him to give me time to work on it. At the fifth appearance of his now not so great face, I was sure he could tell that the smile carefully plastered on my face was nothing but fake and an attempt not to loose my sanity in the process of 'verbal diarrhea'. That smile and an additional look also called him lots of unpleasant names which I would like not to talk about, not on this forum anyways. Whether or not he got the unspoken, matters not.

During the situation with that gentleman, I was so sure I was on the right and could not comprehend why he couldn't see it. I thought he was the most annoying and immature person I had met at that hour. I may have been right but I did not need to dwell on that alone. I shouldn't have concentrated on making the man feel like a jerk, of what value did it add to me? Sure it felt great putting across a good point but did it help in reality? If he was going to feel bad about his little scene, it would have been better for him to recognize on his own, unless he is the'too proud-to-admit' type. That way, learning by recognition of his own issues would have given him a bigger chance of being more civil in future without feeling 'sore' about it. Well the opposite still works- teaching. By giving him that fake smile and killer look, I did give him a not so gentle push towards the 'you're a jerk' recognition fact. In as much as it taught, it made me feel a bit of guilt, pitied him and I also almost caught me a ride to 'you too are a jerk' island. I ought to have looked at this man past his physical barrier and see myself through him. In other words, he should have been my mirror. By that, I should have recalled myself behaving similarly so with others, i.e being a jerk and making their life less bearable, and making a correction on that. I now felt first hand what other parties felt when I put them in my shoes by often assuming this gentleman's shoes.

 Each of us has faced a mirror and depending on the reflection, get our spirits lifted or crushed. If we like what we see on the mirror, we get to smile and gain more confidence for the day or hour. We get to be content with ourselves and even try to best the better us as noted on the mirror. If we don't like what we see, we work towards making it appear much better. That, is an important role of your mirror, REFLECTION and REVELATION. The mirror doesn't necessarily have to be that typical tangible glass that hangs by the wall, it can be that annoying person that helps you learn the art of patience and kindness, that awful feeling telling you to be better before you loose important people in your life...etc. In short, anything that helps in revealing areas you need to improve on is a mirror. My 'gentleman mirror' should have taught me more patience, understanding and  so many other great virtues.


I myself have faced a lot of mirrors, some disseminating false information but most of them true to the core. Some mirrors may be as false as the message they carry across; it may be that they are faulty or broken. If your mirror gives you a reason to do something your gut feeling is not keen on, whoa! slow down. One of them is right, so use the grey and white matter we talked about earlier to make a decision. Your brain is very powerful, it will help you understand your innermost feelings if only you concentrate on them. Invoke your maker too. Don't be in a rush to respond to your mirrors unless you feel you are in danger. Analyse them first, let the reality sink and decide later, it's not an emergency dear. Mirrors may be misleading; you think you should work on getting back your friendship with someone because you feel it was a mistake to break ties? Your inner mirror may reveal to you that you're worse off initially, listen to this mirror later after giving yourself a break. Does your brain and gut feeling agree to its latter revelation? Was your relationship beneficial to both of you or was it a parasitic kind of relation? Questions are vital aspects of decision making based on a mirror revelation. The mirror hanging on the wall tells your skin is not as flawless as the one of so and so, you either get your brain to work by confirming (once again) you are beautiful the way you are (unless its a skin issue in which case you are still beautiful but need to visit your dermatologist) or you let the brain not do its job thus get to the most unhealthy ways of trying to look like 'that flawless face'. Bottom line is, ensure your mirror is not broken or faulty before you make your decision.


Mirrors are great and useful, but that doesn't mean they can't mislead. Choose what to do with your mirror, and while at it take your brain and gut feeling with you. We are emotional beings, and those emotions at times do cloud our judgement.


Have a great week